Three Blind Men
Once upon a time, in a Far Far Away country, where charming Princes and beautiful Princesses dwell {caution:this suppose to be children story, so I add up 'juice' a little bit :)}, live three blind men who are friend with each other. The eldest one named Aaron, the tallest one is Burn, and the kindest among them named Jason. Despite their blindness, they never see themselves as pitiful person and also they are working as farmers for their living {magnificent, right?}.
New Animal?
One day, news had spread that a new rare animal is coming to the city. An elephant. Hearing these news, Burns said, "come on my friends, let's go to the city next morning, don't you all want to know how an elephant looks like?". As curiosity is never limited, Aaron and Burn agreed.
So, early in the next morning, they all went to the city.
The Elephant looks like this!
After an hour of walking {the city is actually quite near to their place, with cars only about 15 minutes, but well, cars don't exist in fairy tale}, they arrived to the very place where the elephant was situated. Considering they are blinded, therefore, the only way to 'see' the elephant is by touching it. They all managed to touch the elephant but however, at different parts of its body.
Aaron, who touch the elephant at its trunk said, " An elephant is like a snake"
Burn, who touch the elephant at its leg said, "No Aaron, you are wrong, elephant is like a tree"
Jason, on the other hand, touch the elephant at its tail said, "No, no, no, you are both wrong, an elephant looks like rope"
Who is the right one?
Due to different statements they have about how elephant looks like, they started bickering with each other. Each one try to make sense to others that they are the right one. Up until now, they are still bickering and fighting just because of a simple misunderstanding- touching the elephant at different parts. They friendship they all treasure sadly had been drowned in the drain...sorry, but no happily ever after ;(
We also a BLIND MAN.
Everyday, there are always dispute among people. Fighting and bickering, trying to pretend that they are the MOST CORRECT PERSON in the ENTIRE UNIVERSE, "he's the one to be blame; I am right; How on earth can you possibly say it like that?!".
Well, it takes two to tango, therefore, why don't move together rhythmically so that we don't get entangled?
Of course, dispute, fight, bickering, disagreement is something that we cannot run in our everyday life, it happens in between all walks of life, even an old man can 'fight' with another old man just to defend his ego!
So, what can be done to relieve this conflict?
Maybe I'm not the one who is qualified to tell what you should do when you fight with someone, but I just want to share what I do when I have a dispute with my nakama (friends) despite their gender:
1. Talk to them face to face; sit in the same table, and tell them what is it that I don't agree with them, of course, this way is a bit harsh, but the dispute is settled immediately, and for the following nights I can sleep well. Plus, I get to know more about that person.
2. Think nice of them; maybe you really disagree with that someone because of his/her actions, but try to think what she/he did are nice. You and him/her have different perspectives, so, maybe she/he sees things different from yours, and that's what make LIFE BEAUTIFUL.
3.Forgive and forget; you cannot be sure whether it is you fault or his/her, so what you can do now is forgive and forget that incident. It is better to forgive wrongly that to punish a wrong person, in addition, this can release all the hatred you had for him/her {this way is the most difficult part,but you are strong if you can do this!)
Walau bibir melafaz marah,
tapi hati merindu sayang,
Andai hati seiring kata,
terjalinlah cinta marah-marah sayang
-Oldies_Marah-marah Sayang Lyric-
{so fight and bicker is ok, but don't be excessive because it is one trait of the Munafiqun}
- Wallahu'alam,segala kekhilafan harap dapat diampunkan, segala kesilapan harap diperbetulkan-
Biar tersalah ampun, jangan tersilap hukum ~ Saifuddin a.k.a Laksamana Sunan
New Animal?
One day, news had spread that a new rare animal is coming to the city. An elephant. Hearing these news, Burns said, "come on my friends, let's go to the city next morning, don't you all want to know how an elephant looks like?". As curiosity is never limited, Aaron and Burn agreed.
So, early in the next morning, they all went to the city.
The Elephant looks like this!
After an hour of walking {the city is actually quite near to their place, with cars only about 15 minutes, but well, cars don't exist in fairy tale}, they arrived to the very place where the elephant was situated. Considering they are blinded, therefore, the only way to 'see' the elephant is by touching it. They all managed to touch the elephant but however, at different parts of its body.
Aaron, who touch the elephant at its trunk said, " An elephant is like a snake"
Burn, who touch the elephant at its leg said, "No Aaron, you are wrong, elephant is like a tree"
Jason, on the other hand, touch the elephant at its tail said, "No, no, no, you are both wrong, an elephant looks like rope"
image from www.whattofix.com/blog/archive/2008/05/peace_for_pachy.php
Who is the right one?
Due to different statements they have about how elephant looks like, they started bickering with each other. Each one try to make sense to others that they are the right one. Up until now, they are still bickering and fighting just because of a simple misunderstanding- touching the elephant at different parts. They friendship they all treasure sadly had been drowned in the drain...sorry, but no happily ever after ;(
We also a BLIND MAN.
Everyday, there are always dispute among people. Fighting and bickering, trying to pretend that they are the MOST CORRECT PERSON in the ENTIRE UNIVERSE, "he's the one to be blame; I am right; How on earth can you possibly say it like that?!".
Well, it takes two to tango, therefore, why don't move together rhythmically so that we don't get entangled?
Of course, dispute, fight, bickering, disagreement is something that we cannot run in our everyday life, it happens in between all walks of life, even an old man can 'fight' with another old man just to defend his ego!
So, what can be done to relieve this conflict?
Maybe I'm not the one who is qualified to tell what you should do when you fight with someone, but I just want to share what I do when I have a dispute with my nakama (friends) despite their gender:
1. Talk to them face to face; sit in the same table, and tell them what is it that I don't agree with them, of course, this way is a bit harsh, but the dispute is settled immediately, and for the following nights I can sleep well. Plus, I get to know more about that person.
2. Think nice of them; maybe you really disagree with that someone because of his/her actions, but try to think what she/he did are nice. You and him/her have different perspectives, so, maybe she/he sees things different from yours, and that's what make LIFE BEAUTIFUL.
3.Forgive and forget; you cannot be sure whether it is you fault or his/her, so what you can do now is forgive and forget that incident. It is better to forgive wrongly that to punish a wrong person, in addition, this can release all the hatred you had for him/her {this way is the most difficult part,but you are strong if you can do this!)
Walau bibir melafaz marah,
tapi hati merindu sayang,
Andai hati seiring kata,
terjalinlah cinta marah-marah sayang
-Oldies_Marah-marah Sayang Lyric-
{so fight and bicker is ok, but don't be excessive because it is one trait of the Munafiqun}
- Wallahu'alam,segala kekhilafan harap dapat diampunkan, segala kesilapan harap diperbetulkan-
Biar tersalah ampun, jangan tersilap hukum ~ Saifuddin a.k.a Laksamana Sunan
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